Foolishness and Faith

Some people look on a woman who chooses to stay married to a man who is “difficult,. as a fool. Some will argue and advise.

Leave. You need to leave to be free to be all God has created you to be. 

Leave. You don’t deserve to be treated like this. 

Leave. I did and now have a wonderful marriage with a different man. You could have that too. 

Get a job so you are not so dependant on your spouse. 

As a side note, they might even say, “but, of course you should do what God tells you to do.”

Isn’t that just the kicker? Out of one side of the mouth being told that an intentional choice to stay married is wrong but at the same time told to follow the very God who has led us to that choice.

They often don’t see that they are inextricably linked. Staying has to be a choice of faith and obedience to God as much as leaving. If every step of our lives is to be in obedience to God then we don’t look for the “out” or excuse to leave. We stay in spite of excuses and cling, not to the opinion of men (or women) but instead to the leading of God through his Word and the Holy Spirit.

And should God open that door to leave, we will also pray that we have the courage to follow Him there as well.

Have courage and stand firm, clinging to the God who loves you dearly.

Blessings, Lilly Grace


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Amy Diedrich
    May 08, 2014 @ 07:24:37

    Thank you for this inspirational blog. I like receiveing it. I am to struggling if I should leave or stay. Thanks again.


    • lillygracebrown
      May 10, 2014 @ 05:53:53

      I’m sorry you have to go through that. Seek God first. No path is easy. Seek wise counsel too but make sure ultimately, it is God’s voice you listen to and not the emotion of a moment. ((hugs!))


  2. Cindy at Affaircare
    May 12, 2014 @ 03:21:08


    I know for a fact that God never told any wife that her marriage would be “easy” or even nice. I know for a fact that God HAS told every wife that except for sexual immortality, divorcing is not something that pleases Him. I also know for a fact, that when you stay in a marriage that is not easy, and your life is a testimony of obedience to what GOD wants (not what you want) and a testimony of godly living in the face of adversity…that DOES please Him.

    Now, in the instance of physical abuse, I would recommend not remaining in physical danger, and if that means going somewhere else to get away from physical harm, then that is not “divorcing”–it is moving to safety. If it is emotional or verbal abuse, then I recommend some emotional distancing may be necessary in order to protect yourself because YOU are valuable to God too. But that is not divorcing, punishing, or manipulating…it is still being a servant wife and obeying GOD, but putting enough emotional room in there to be a wise wife.

    So don’t you listen to those “leave” people. I think 99.99% of the time they are trying to assuage their own guilt.


    • Amy Diedrich
      May 17, 2014 @ 15:08:50

      I agree with. But I dont know if I can take any of this anymore. I feel very trapped. I am in a depression and bad anxiety.
      Also one more does anybody experience this scenario with their spouse. He some times uses stuff that I say or do against me in later arguments. As if he makes a mental note of it later when we do argue he brings it up again to be little me.


      • lillygracebrown
        May 29, 2014 @ 07:49:46

        The only way someone can stay is by clinging to God and finding a safe person (or more) to help you learn to care for yourself in the midst of the situation. Prayng for you Amy!

    • lillygracebrown
      May 29, 2014 @ 07:49:01

      Amen. I agree with you!


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